Last week, a United passenger exited a plane in perhaps the most humiliating way. As videos emerged of a bloodied, screaming, and disoriented man being forcibly removed from a seat he paid for, shock and horror consumed us all. There was no corporate empathy from United for David Dao as he was manhandled from the plane waiting at the gate, and visibly injured in the act and no crew intervened. Continue reading How can the United Debacle Inspire a Growth Mindset
We all know that Yoga and Meditation have serious benefits for our health and overall well being. But for pro athletes competing a high level, playing the game with Mind Control can be really rewarding. Super Bowl champion head coach Pete Carroll, who is in his seventh year as a head coach and executive vice president of the NFL’s Seattle Seahawks, requires that all of his players take yoga classes during the season and even credits the Zen practice for relaxing his players and keeping them focused on game day. Continue reading Mindfulness and Yoga in Sports
Our work places usually consume a lot more of our energy and emotions than we ever realize. Thanks to burgeoning technology, spending more than 10 hours at the job is the norm these days and more so with self-employed folks and entrepreneurs, who literally never seem to take a break from their work. If you identify yourself as one of these types, here are a four tips on how to do better at work and succeed with Mindfulness.
In the past three years, most important habit I’ve formed is Meditation. Hands down, bar none. Ripple effects of Meditation have shown up on many other aspects of my life, abandoning a few bad habits, becoming more peaceful, getting my attention back from non stop outflow of various media and most importantly ability to sit quietly in a room alone.
Look around, the entire city — country? world? — seems to be infected by a disease, harbored on by a deluge of technology. The constant demand for our attention, our need to look fabulous and important, apps with notifications on, games which lead you on to infinite levels — each person we see today is inadvertently hooked onto their smart phones.
Steve Jobs, who was a master of mind control and living and working purposefully, learned to seize control over his success and his life by asking himself one important question in the mirror every morning:
If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?’ If the Answer is ‘no’ for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.
Did you set a resolution for 2017? If yes, be honest with this question:
All our lives, right from our childhood to youth and then well into adulthood, humans aim for various things which they believe will lead them to the ultimate goal – happiness. Dressed up in many forms e.g. a new phone, a new car or a great job, our goal as humans is to just somehow acquire that one thing which will make us happy. And so on it goes…
I remember at a very young age of 6, wanting a dress similar to one worn by my friend so badly. I would pray for it, whine to my mom about it and in general be obsessed with it for hours at end. Those were the days when mom still stitched at home, and somehow by miracle of manifestations, I did get that dress made out for myself. Now, it would be normal to assume that happiness at acquiring that much wanted dress would last for a while. But not so, within 2 days of getting that dress, my friend had a shiny new pink bike which became my latest object of desire and ultimate happiness.
Recently, I found myself introspecting about this particular incident and I realized things haven’t changed for me so much really. I have been wanting one thing after the other, a dream vacation, a well behaved child, a home as clean as a picture or maybe just a great sunset view while on a trip to the beach. But as soon as that moment is over, irrespective of fact whether I got what I wanted or not, my heart starts to want the next thing. Sounds familiar?
This unsettling feeling resonated with me so much that on my next trip to India, I spent some time in holy city of Haridwar trying to figure out what I really wanted from life. Surely, it had to be something beyond material possessions, or someone else’s behaviour, or someone else’s achievements which would make me happy. In fact by this time I was even wondering if true happiness really existed or was it just a metaphor we are made to believe in to keep functioning.
In Haridwar I met a Shaman (native healer) sitting on the steps of river Ganges during evening prayer times. There was unending peace and compassion in his eyes and I put up this question to him. And his answer did and did not surprise me at the same time. He said, this unsettled feeling comes from the fact that I am following and chasing the wrong thing. It is not happiness that I should seek but Peace. That moment is etched crystal clear in my mind to this date. Suddenly it seemed like the mist had cleared and sun had shone through bright and shiny. I spend more than three hours with him that evening, taking in the beauty, the noise and the lights of the ghats by ganges. My discussion with Shaman changed my entire life purpose, and it seemed I did get my answers that evening.
Seeking of happiness is a futile and indeed a metaphorical exercise. This is because happiness lies in material things and feelings. If we change our focus on achieving peace, our outlook towards life and our relations takes a 360 swing. We start spending our days not focussed on being happy but focussed on being peaceful and spreading peace around us. Here are my biggest learnings from that evening and I sincerely hope they will help you in someway.
- Make peace with your past so it doesn’t spoil your present
- What others think of you is none of your business
- Time heals everything – so give the time, some time
- No one is the reason for your happiness except you, yourself
- Don’t compare your life with others, you have no idea what their journey is all about
- Stop thinking too much, its all right not to know all the answers
- Smile, ’cause you don’t own all the problems in this world
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